Last night, while out, I serendipitously met a guy who had seen me on OKC and remembered my profile name. That impressed me, as I rarely bother to remember the profile names of those with whom I interact, let alone those I do not meet. Heck, until I’ve agreed to a second or even third date beyond the meet and greet, I don’t pay too much attention to their details (hence the Dave mixups). Unless they end up in my life, I simply don’t need to fill my head with that minutia.
Anyway, this guy is tall, cute, and very nice. I initiated conversation as he guarded the exit from an exclusive area of a local hotel. Tall Witty and Wonderful (TWW for future reference) and I were leaving, and I teased him lightly about guarding the exit instead of the entrance. As the evening wore on, it became clear he was quite interested in TWW, who by the way, was wearing 3” fmps last night. With shorts! (Once again, I performed my wingman duties with alacrity; he’s attending a Cards Against Humanity party at my house tomorrow… so is TWW of course).
While we chatted, he mentioned that I had viewed his profile on several occasions… 3 he said. How the heck does one remember such things? I thought he was cute; I probably would have remembered his face; I am good at that. Later, he told me that his photos included an older picture of him from his military days as a sniper. He knew some women didn’t like guns, so he wanted that information very visible. I grew up around guns, and they do not offend me, so guys who include photos of this hobby don’t make me run off. Another prominent photo was one of his Weimaraner, a breed I like.
My point: I would have remembered this guy, but I didn’t. I think something fishy is going on with the dating site. Similarly, on Match, as soon as my account expired, I once again received dozens of views and winks a day. I’m cynical enough to think the sites intentionally send views and winks to keep people interested. Costs are far from cheap on Match….when considering the matches at least. OKC, the free site, may receive more ads or more ad money for increased activity.
On a side note, the guy (Guard Guy?) told me about the lack of response from the women he had messaged while on the OKC. He thought it was rude. I am guilty of the failing to respond. He asked why. First, it seems that women receive many more emails than men. When I was first on both sites, there was no way to keep up with the messages. Second….some men do not take polite rejection well, and the online format allows them to FLAME back. I do not like being berated by strangers because I don’t want to meet them. The flamers were often people who in no way fit my listed preferences, yet… in sometimes very repulsive ways…they expressed their ire that I wouldn’t meet them. I don’t need that, so it is much easier to ignore the messages than respond with a nice no thank you.
Last night’s activity was a Match Mixer… ooooooooooooeeeeeeeeeeeee… That’s a story, but I don’t have time to tell it tonight because I have a 5 a.m. fishing date in the morning. REAL fish. I’m thinking of selecting one of the photos of me with one of my catch as a profile photo. Would that get the guys or what? 😉